Of course Michael hasn’t been in touch. Rachel and I met up for a drink on Monday night and I told her I was going to go to the walk-in clinic for a morning after pill and she said, ‘Are you mad! If you get pregnant by him you are set up for life!!’
So I didn’t go. But it is very very unlikely I could be pregnant anyway. (Given what happened.) And also I feel angry and suicidal so clearly have PMT.
If I was a man I’d always send flowers afterwards, just to make people feel better.
Still, I have scrubbed out my whole flat, and last night I had a bath with all the White Company soaps and bubblebaths and stuff that came with the hotel room. I was thinking of buying a mini fridge and stocking it up with nuts and chocs, but maybe that is going too far…
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Dear Scones
Maybe he's feeling horribly embarrassed about the whole thing. He whisked you away for a dream weekend, but the time you spend with him seemed... disappointing, from your account. Maybe you could drop him a nice card thanking him for a lovely weekend? It's then up to him if he responds and if he doesn't, you know it was one of those magical-but-never-to-be-repeated weekends.
Fondest regards
L
Dear Miggins, well, maybe I will send him a card. That would be polite, rather than desperate, wouldn't it? Especially if it was a v witty, cool card from Paperchase or something. Thanks for the advice, love from scones xx
Ha! Glad dear Scones absconded with the soaps!
Cow is gingerly going to wade into this discussion.
Cow thinks Scones should call him, or if you don't have his phone number, drop by. ONE TIME ONLY!
Just one time, not stalking or anything. No repeat calls nor visits. Just one time.
The reason: Usually Cow would Not Call because you want them to make the move.
But this time, because of his Lack of Performance in the Bed Department (ahem!) Cow thinks he might be embarassed and lacking confidence.
Cow recommends a nice phone call.
And the reason she Strenuously Advises Against A Card:
This is complicated but here's the reason. Guys are direct. Women are indirect. A Call says to a guy: she's interested. A Card says to a guy: hmm. she sent me a card. Wonder what that means.
Cow has on occasion sent guys cards. It just doesn't work. It is way too indirect. Guys don't get it. Plus if he doesn't respond, you'll never know if he even received the card, or not.
A nice, brief call. Just to say hi and tell him what a nice time you had. If he doesn't call back or respond, then you'll know it was a one-off.
If you get voicemail, not sure. Maybe try once or twice to get him. But a call is the thing, for sure. If not, stop by. He's got a butler, right? So if he's not home, you can leave your name.
Just a hunch, but Cow thinks if things in the bed were a trifle flat, he may need some encouragement.
Moo!
One more thought (Cow shamelessly hogging the blog).
You just parted Sunday. It is entirely reasonable that, especially if he is having business problems, that he might not call for a week or two.
It had been a long time since your breakfast, and he still liked you when he saw you in the bar! It's not like he'll forget you in a week or two. He really may just be busy, it is very busy now in investments and such.
Cow thinks a call or visit is the thing, or otherwise, just wait. Cow does kind of lean in the direction of a quick call. Don't linger, don't make it long. Seem busy and don't drag it out. Just quick, to say thank you.
Moo
Dear Topiary, well, this is wonderful, getting all this advice. I just didn't have the slightest idea what the best thing to do might be. And neither did Rachel.It's so easy to get it wrong.
Maybe you ought to put all this wisdom of yours in a book. It's so good. And it really sounds to me as if you are completely right.
So I'm going to wait for a week, and if I don't hear from him I'll call in at his house, and if he isn't in, THEN I'll leave a friendly note with a maid or butler or something. (Because I can't call twice.)So that way I'll be taking your advice and Miggins's advice.
It is so difficult and painful negotiating all this Men are from Mars Women are from Venus stuff! love from scones xx
PS I am so so glad both you and Miggins (and Rachel)DO NOT think the best thing to do is to mope around at home waiting for a call that never comes, doing nothing and feeling sad.
(Cow puffing chest importantly)
Cow thanks you for the compliment!
Cow hopes he calls, but if not, hopes that YOUR visit or call goes well!
Cow admits that hearing about all this is very exciting and quite a change from her own staid, grass-cropping existence.
(Cow hoping for the best with hooves crossed)
Moo!
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