Maybe it will all turn out OK and Michael won’t tell anyone about my imaginary inheritance. In the meantime there are no obvious signs this firm is in trouble. The client list has not shrunk. They’re refurbishing the upper offices. The MD was whistling in the toilets this morning. Could Michael be mistaken? Why would he lie to me about something like that?
Anyhoo, last night Rachel was ranting bitterly about male/female relationships, and how they are a scary meat-market. So if you are a woman over thirty-five, basically your market value has declined tragically, so you have to pick a man who is:
1) less attractive than you
2) less wealthy than you, or
3) less classy than you
Other things that cause a woman to have to lower her standards severely in the hope of getting laid are:
1) being larger than size 12
2) having a past (ie divorced and ranting about it)
3) being accompanied everywhere by nightmare small child called something like Max or Rupert.
So according to Rache if I was divorced and had a nightmare kid the only person who’d ever go out with me would be a hideously misshapen tramp. This can’t be right.
I think prolonged contact with her nightmare cat Oskar has depressed Rachel too much.
9 comments:
Hi Scones,
I've just caught up with your Date with Destiny and this post.
I agree about the "declining value" of a woman over 35. Unfortunately on the few occasions when I have deigned to look at internet dating profiles men of my age all want slightly younger women -- i.e. still of fertile child bearing age.
I don't know why they don't think that a woman of 40 can still be fertile, but there seems to be a mental block with a lot of 40-ish men who only want to date women of about 35 (or a bit less).
Yes, for me option (1) -- men less attractive than myself seems to be the only ground that produces any interest any more.
I am living in hope that once I lose all my excess weight my field of vision might broaden slightly, but then I've still got the AGE thing going against me, haven't I?
Isn't it brilliant being a NON size 12 woman over 35? (Ha! ha!).
best wishes,
sharon
DearSharon, it would be very depressing to believe this is true.Trouble is, when you are young you hardly ever realise how powerful/ lucky you are. So it's a bit unfair to have it taken away, really. Lovescones
Cow agrees with scones that there were a lot more opportunities at 18 than she realized.
BUT and However, just in Cow's small world, there are three over- 40 ladies who recently married solvent, attractive men.
This (Cow getting on soapbox) is why she doesn't think on-line dating is the way to go.
These matches were made in person, meeting through friends, at the gym, etc. These women aren't perfect but they do keep themselves in shape by working out and making themselves attractive (making the best of what they have).
Guys are still going to want to marry or be around people they feel comfortable with, not just thin 18-year-olds.
Cow recommends reading "Why Men Marry the Women they Do" (she may not have that title exact).
It was a scientific study of couples leaving marriage license bureaus, about how/where they met, what attracted them, why they decided to marry. It's not all about appearance.
Be of good cheer!
Topiary Cow
Here's the exact title, Cow highly recommends it for scientific knowledge, not just some author's opinion or hearsay.
"Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others: The Fascinating Research That Can Land You the Husband of Your Dreams by John T. Molloy
Moo!
My god what a bunch of sad, elderly losers. Hey sandwichshortofapicnic why dont you just give up on ever finding anyone as it seems from your blog that you are fat, dim, poorly paid and elderly - who sane would want to be seen in public with you, let alone date you?
DearTopiary, well that is yet another book I will have to get! The other book you recommended was very good, too (it was about not being a victim, and picked on by scary men).'The Gift of Fear'. There are vague rules but they are not inflexible.And you are right,the most important is to keep in shape etc.Thanks for your encouraging posts. Love scones xx
Dear Anonymous, please do not be rude to my friends. I don't mind what you say about me, but please leave them alone. Anyway, surely there is always hope for everyone? Love scones
Topiary very happy to learn scones found the last book helpful, and promises a much lighter, more fun and more enlightening read with this book.
Topiary skipping happily along with her sprightly Topiary Summer Song.
Moo!
Hey Anonymous! You're clearly perfect, so please do share the details of your wonderful relationships and how superb your life is, just so us losers who read this blog can share from how brilliant your existence is, and weep with envy.
Dear Miffy, nice to hear from you, Love from scones x
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